First off, let me warn everyone never to call anyone, an ex, a fired employee, anyone never call someone psycho, It’s cruel, as they likely do have mental illness, and two it’s dangerous, as I told people in high school, when a girl went “crazy” (it’s not me I went “crazy” in college), never tell someone you think is unstable that they are unstable in a bad or judgmental way, as how exactly is that going to help? seriously, if you call someone crazy, (it’s the most dismissive thing you can call someone in my opinion, as it takes their actual feelings of being not heard and you dismiss it, it’s a bad idea) what do you give them permission to do? act crazy. It’s not something we should throw around, as people who get rejected often take it upon themselves to obsess over it, and do you really want that monster? do you? because I sure as hell don’t.

What Am I? (It helps to ask)

I have been called an Empath, Many people have told me I’m the most empathetic person they know, and it’s true, anyone who has ever tested it says I’m the literal highest levels they have ever seen. It’s not always fun. Why?

well, do you know the difference between empathy and sympathy? if you don’t understand the difference instantly, like see it and recognize that that is what makes you hurt or love, then you can’t be an empath. (it sounds good, but it’s incurably painful, sometimes people want to be blind in their own perspective, it makes ever black and white situation grey)

Empathy is when one relates to the situation, meaning, they put themselves in the person’s shoes, they imagine themselves going through whatever situation and then form a judgment. Sympathy is when one in the moment stays themselves, they never become the person or situation in question but they can sympathize, they can relate how they may have some personal experience and relate it to the “other”. 

Empaths struggle as they form the connection, they feel as if they are the person in question to a degree, it’s for me a lot like a dream if I really think about the situation or person, it feels real to me, i experience it, but I contiguously understand that it’s not me, I can draw that distinction, yet it feels just as real. 

I cannot watch people be embarrassed, I cannot watch people in pain, scary movies, laughing in someone’s face, even if they have reason, I cannot handle revenge, I cannot do the crime, just like hamlet, if I am thinking of what someone would do, I cannot blame them, as I see it through their eyes in a way. I cannot handle many situations as I both blame the person for being truly cruel or selfish or hurtful or blind, yet I can always see their humanity, I never can not see them as a real person. Did any one ever ask me?

because If you level with me and show me your humanity, I cannot not see you as a person, that is why I always say, you do want to level with me, talk to me in person, it’s my glaring weakness. I can point out people being not genuine from miles away, but if you are genuine then I can’t forget it.

is that to say that I always let people get away with doing cruel things? no. I break up with people and I fire people, I have limits as a leader, I have standards and I too am human.

yet it really doesn’t hurt to ask, as I’m self aware. I’m not psycho, I’m stuck caring.